After my yoga class the other day - where we paused our flow for some ab work - my very dear friend Becca asked if I had ever done the Pilates 100 (a set of 100 crunches with specific breathing). It sounded awesome, and I've since tried it, and love it. However, Becca's reasoning for doing it was that the point was to count to 100, so she knew when the end was near.
And that got me thinking. Of course.
A) I felt really bad because during my yoga ab set, I NEVER count. Basically, I wait until people start quitting because their abs are seizing.
Then I will occasionally say "5 more!" There are reasons behind my madness. One thing I love about yoga is the mental aspect.
Not knowing how long you will be instructed to stay in a posture may lead to breakthroughs. It may lead to "Wow, I didn't know my body was capable of this!" It may also lead to "Wow, I need to work on this!" But either way, you are learning about yourself. You can see change. You can see weakness. Doing something for the same count every time does give you a control, but the mental side seems so... easy.
B) So how does this apply to life? Let me tell you: I got married last year. My husband and I were shocked by how many people, upon our engagement, immediately asked us when the wedding was. Luckily Becca (she gets full credit on this one!) had also recently gotten engaged and gave me the advice to hold off on planning for a while. What a concept: enjoying your engagement! BE PRESENT (yes, silly yogi term, but gosh darn it! So relevant!).
And then we got married. It was a great celebration with tons of friends, food, and family. Before the night was over ... "When are you two going to start having kids?" ARE YOU FREAKIN' KIDDING?! We haven't even gone to our
honeymoon suite yet! Give me a chance to be present and enjoy my brand-new-as-of-3-hours-ago husband!! Let's talk about babies later.
Later meant about 2 weeks for grandma, and about a month for mom (I believe she spent that silent month redecorating my childhood bedroom into the grandchildren's nursery). Everyone seemed so disappointed when I said "I don't know. We are happy as we are right now."
Don't get me wrong. I'm a planner and a go-getter, but sometimes not knowing what the next step is going to be brings beauty to life. Just like not knowing how much longer your set of crunches will last, not planning how long your healthy-eating kick will go (btw, no gluten, no sugar, not dairy, no booze is going
great, thanks for asking, and I may do it forever,
I don't know), not knowing your next big step in life can be ... relaxing, pleasant even. Being present, loving who you're with and where you are can be wonderful. You don't need to be a yogi to recognize the calm. No need to hurry. Challenges will find you where you are, there's no need to bring them upon yourself.
Right? Perhaps.